Child Abuse Related Topics

Very Important Tips To Protect Your Child

Children are our most valuable resource. Almost 700,000 children get lost every year, in most cases they stay lost from 1 to 4 hours. They range in age from 2 to 7 years old.

Many of them do not remember their address or phone number.
2,000 lost children are reported every day to the FBI. They get
lost form all kinds of public places such as beaches, amusement
parks, fairs, and airports.

Child abuse is another problem an is having a big impact now in
United States. It cost to the nation in terms of economic as
much as $258 millions each day. The number of child abuse
reports rose from fewer than 100,000 in 1976 to more than
1,000,000 by early 1980s.

The efect of child abuse is not only
to the physical and mental health of the child, which is the
biggest damage, but the affect as well to the judicial system and
public services as they respond in supporting the victims.

Therefore it is absolutely necessary that we take positive
measures to insure their safety. Those measures can be very
simple:

Parents…

Never leave your child alone; not at home, or playing ,or in a
vehicle, or anywhere.

-There are wristbands
to prevent them from getting lost like the Childgard

Worn by the child, the cartoon animal-shaped transmitter sends
a constant signal to the receiver, which is held by the adult.
The signal is adjustable - from a distance of 6 to 30 feet, so
when the child goes beyond the set distance, the adult’s
receiver starts to beep, letting them know that the child is
starting to wander off.

-Another measure is to put a note or tag with your phone number
on your child in an easily accessible place. This allows
another adult to see and use it to contact you. Young children,
who can’t speak, should have the note or tag visible so that
another person can access it easily without needing to undo the
child’s clothing.

-Another good idea is to dress your child in bright, special
“Away from Home” clothing.

-Teach Your Child to Ask Another Mommy for Help if he or she get
lost.

-Teach your child what a STRANGER is. Let them know that just
because they see a person everyday ( paperboy, neighbor, etc.)
it does not mean these people are not strangers.

-Teach your child his or her full name, your name, full address,
and phone number. Teach them how to use a telephone.

-Teach your children the “What if…?” Game, making up different
dangerous situations that they might encounter and helping them
play out what they would do in that situation.

-Take the time to talk to your child and see if there is any
change in his or her attitude toward an adult or teenager; it
may be a sign of sexual abuse.

-Define procedures with your child’s school as to whom the child
will be released to other than yourself.

-Teach your child that his or her body is private and no one has
the right to touch it in a wrong way. If anyone touches them in
a wrong way they should: SAY NO, GET AWAY, and TELL SOMEONE they
trust.

-You must protect your children at home as well. Many accidents
could happen there.
You can use a Child Protection Kit to prevent accidents at home.

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Psychodynamic History

Sigmund Freud (1856 - 1939) is the founder of psychoanalysis and he developed the psychoanalytical theory during the years 1885 to 1939 when he died in England a refugee from the Nazi regime prior to World War Two.

Freud’s theory of the mind was not a psychological school of thought but came out of his work in medicine, particularly the problems of the nervous system. Freud dissatisfied with the way psychiatry treated the mentally ill by classifying, that all abnormal activity arose from the explanation of disease, but he proposed that some forms of abnormality arose from an imbalance of the mind due to the stresses and strains of everyday life. Freud could not experiment with the techniques of today but relied on observation of his patients in the course of treatment, which lead to his insight of a theory of the mind.

Freud’s case studies led him to believe that many of his patients reported disturbances in their daily lives through hysterical reactions to life events that they could not cope with. Freud discovered that through analysis of their childhood experiences and current problems he could see a link (association) between their current behaviour and that of childhood trauma. After much thought and discovery Freud developed his theory of personality based on the idea of conflict in the mind as a basis for a splitting of the personality into three areas of competing self interests that struggled for dominance within the person’s mind.

Freud saw personality split into three areas that of the Super-Ego, which was developed through parental guidance initially and refined by schooling and peer group pressures. The second and more dynamic was the Id, that part of the mind that controlled biological needs and wants. The Id sought pleasure and avoided negative consequences. The last part was the Ego in which the persons present reality decided on the best course of action between the controlling aspects of the Super-Ego and the Id. For example the Id may require satisfying the need for hunger, this

Freud saw as a drive that was biologically motivated. However the Super-Ego may be in conflict with this request through the modern idea of diet and thinness and so put pressure of the mind to prevent the need being satisfied. The Ego must then step in and referee this conflict by testing reality. Is the required hunger the result of a length of time without food or is it the desire of seeing desirable food such as chocolate and wanting this even though there is no beneficial requirement for its consumption? The conflict in normal people would be resolved by the Ego insight of the current state of weight or need of the individual. The Id could be suppressed by the Ego from satisfying its desire and so the Super-ego would triumph over its rival. On the other hand if the Ego allows the consumption of the chocolate the Id has triumphed and the need satisfied.

Freud believed that these processes where mainly unconscious in the respect of satisfying biological needs and the mind only brings these to the surface during a conflict of interests. In this case the desire for chocolate would become conscious only for the time of debate. However Freud was much more interested in his day of the underlying reasons for hysteria involved in the frustration of the Id by social convention particularly involving sexual frustration amongst women clients who during this era would have been subject to many taboos about their sexuality and the role they were expected to play in society. Dominance by a male society led many of Freud’s clients to suffer guilt at inappropriate feelings that they would need to suppress in order to fulfil their role of subordinate females. Many of Freud’s patience deflected these conflicts between desire (Id) and social expectations (Super-ego) by building defences against mental anguish. These defences Freud became to list as the mind’s way of protecting itself from dissonence (Festinger 68).

Defence mechanisms came in several forms. Repression pushes unacceptable thoughts into unconscious; an example would be child abuse. A young woman whose stepfather has touched her genital area during her formative years may feel guilty that she found this touching pleasurable but later learned that it was morally wrong. Having pushed these thoughts and memory into unconsciousness she later transfers these feelings to others by projecting her guilt. When she eventually marries she may find that her husbands sexual advances unconsciously remind her of the abuse and she rejects her husband and becomes frigid in her approach to lovemaking. Her husband may become abusive through frustration and merely reconfirm her inner-feelings that men are naturally abusers. Freud believed that through therapy the woman could be given insight into her childhood trauma and through catharsis would relive the trauma and be able to put it into perspective and so relieve her defensive attitude towards her current situation.

Other defence mechanisms that Freud explained were Reaction Formation, in which the opposite of an unacceptable impulse is expressed, Rationalisation where socially acceptable reasons are given for unacceptable motives, Displacement, an emotional response is redirected towards a safe object and Projection where unacceptable motives/impulses are transferred to others.

Freud believed that his theory was heavily rooted in the childhood experiences of his patients and that the process of being raised within a family has lasting effects on the personality of the individual. From this idea he developed a stage theory of childhood emotional growth based on sexual maturation of the child from baby to adult. In the first of these stages the pleasure for the child is derived from the mouth as the instrument of exploration. Babies pick up objects and put them into their mouths to explore their shape and texture. Pleasing textures would match the feel of the breast in which the child already associates with the satisfaction of the Id’s need for nourishment. After the first year the child moves to the Anal stage in which Freud believed that pleasure was derived from anal excretions and the holding or releasing of faeces. If a mother fusses over the baby when potty training the child realises that he can have approval and attention from its mother by giving its expulsion to her in the form of faeces. The mother’s pleasure in receiving this is expressed as attention giving behaviour. For other babies withholding faeces forces the mother to continually attend to the child and showing concern at the lack of production.

Caution here should be noted that Freud was giving an example here of behaviour and not emphasising this one and only example. The same effect can be witnessed in the child that throws its spoon onto the floor and witnesses its mother retrieving it. The child will throw the spoon several times to the floor having realised that attention can be won by repeated behaviour. The next stage after the age of three Freud saw as the Phallic where pleasure was achieved through the manipulation of the genitals. Children learn that touching themselves can create a pleasant feeling. Parents often discourage this behaviour though censure. Often by telling the little girl that that is dirty or not nice. Boys on the other hand may be encouraged by a Father’s pride at his boy discovering his manhood. Girls may be brought to a belief that that area is dirty which Freud believed led in later life to equate with uneasiness at being touched by a man sexually. By the age of six years Freud believed that a period of Latency began in which sexual motivation losses its importance up until the age of puberty in which the Genital stage begins through the discovery of pleasure through heterosexual relationships. Freud felt that it was important that each stage was progressed through normally for the adult to function within society without perversions coming to the fore.

Freud was particularly interested in the conflict early on in childhood between the emotional battles for attention seeking. In boys he called this the Oedipus complex after the legend of a son killing his father to marry his mother. Freud saw that boys would often compete for theirs mother’s affection with their father who seemed to dominate her time. At first this would be seen in the form of tantrums but later the boy would try to emulate his father by copying his way of behaving to eventually replace him in the mother’s affection. Much of this is unconscious in character and usually resolves itself through maturation. In girls a weaker version was the Electra complex in which they emulated their mothers to impress the father and this could take the form of sexual flirting with the father to encourage his attentions. In today’s society with such a taboo on incestuous relations many modern fathers aware of sexual abuse have been made to feel uneasy in their relations with their daughters as being misinterprated by others as not natural.
Once Freud had formulated his theory he believed that it was universal in nature, meaning it could apply to all cultures and that through these insights patients could be understood in the light of their emotional conflicts, rather than a medical model of abnormality that strived for biological explanations of disturbed minds resulting in maladaptive behaviour.

Much of today’s treatments in which Neo-Freudians work is still based in his belief in childhood development and adult conflict between the opposing areas of the Id, Super-Ego and Ego. Eric Berne (64) developed a popular version of Freud’s ideas in the replacement of the Id, Ego and Super-Ego by the model of people acting as Child, Adult and Parent. This form of analysis was called Transactional Analysis in which the communications between adults where routed in choosing behaviour that brought about a desired outcome. His famous book “Games People Play” shows that Freud’s ideas can be interpreted in many forms. Other theorists such as Karen Horney believed the Freud did not consider the complex feelings of women and that his theory is heavily based on Victorian attitudes to the dominance of a patriarchal society. Despite all these criticisms Freud’s ideas have become part of the western cultural, identity and language. The most popular form of psychoanalysis is Freud’s original version, which looks at the dynamics of the patient’s history and its effects on their current behaviour. Using such techniques as Dream analysis to uncover unconscious symbolism to Free Association in which the patient expresses deep emotional thoughts and desires, later to be known as the “talking cure”. Freud felt that other areas such as transference and counter-transference in which the patient would project the father role onto the therapist and that the therapist would project their mind-set onto the patient all gave insightful material in which to help the patient regain control over their mind and behaviour.

References: Gross, R. (1999) Psychology a New Introduction, Pgs. 10/11, 101/103 507/510.
Berne, E (1964) Games People Play, Pgs. 1/37.
Feldman, R (1993) Understanding Psychology, Pgs. 588/9.

Dr. Stephen Myler is from Leicester in England, an industrial town in the Midlands of the United Kingdom. He holds a B.Sc (Honours) in Psychology from the UK’s Open University the largest in the UK; he also has an M.Sc and Ph.D in Psychology from Knightsbridge University in Denmark. In addition to this Stephen holds many diplomas and awards in a variety of academic areas including journalism, finance, teaching and advanced therapy for mental health. Stephen has as a Professor of Psychology many years teaching experience in colleges and universities in England and China to post 16 young adults, instructing in psychology, sociology, English, marketing and business. He has been fortunate to travel extensively from Australia to Africa to the United Sates, South America, Borneo, most of Europe and Russia. Stephen’s favourite hobby is the study of primates and likes to play badminton. He believes that students who enjoy classes with humour and enthusiasm from the teacher always come back eager to learn more.

The Truth About A Virtually Silent Industry

“It is up to the buyer to beware, as in this case the stakes are very high - their children.”

Each year thousands of children are incarcerated and are not given due process. They lose their basic human rights. They also lose contact with the outside world, are abused, and are humiliated.

These are kids from all walks of life. Some who are straight A students, others are failing in school, some have disabilities and mental health issues, and some are just average kids. Some come from a two-parent home while others come from broken homes or are adopted. Some have woven their way through the foster care system. How do they all end up in the same place?

There is a silent and growing industry that the average American knows nothing about. It is the multi-billion dollar child / teen help industry. It is really quite simple to explain.

In the early 90’s two men discovered a need - parents at their wits end with their troubled children and teens. They found parents were willing to pay a lot of money for someone else to “fix” their child. Today, parents pay anywhere from $40,000 to $100,000 per year in hopes someone else can return to them a normal, well-behaved child or teen. Does this sound too good to be true? It is.

These same two men found others who were like-minded. They developed seminars that parents and kids are forced to attend once they sign up for the program - seminars parents and teens say practice brain-washing techniques.

Parents have reported they were told their child was a manipulator and liar. Other than censored and altered letters, communication between them was banned for months, sometimes up to a year or more.

The reason for altering letters?

Parents are told the reason some letters are “blacked out” is because the child is only manipulating and lying to them in an effort to come home. And other times they do allow the parent to see the letter, telling parents the child is only manipulating and lying in an effort to come home. It is a lose-lose situation for a child who is locked behind closed doors with no way to report abuse if and/or when it occurs. Sadly it was too late by the time their learned their child was telling them the truth.

Children and teens are often told their parents do not want to talk to them, do not want to see them, and blame them for all of the problems in the family. Nothing could be further from the truth. Many parents have reported the agony they go through while their child is away - the guilt, the fear, and the shame. They have invested a lot of money into the “program” and want to believe they will get what they paid for - a normal, happy, well-adjusted child or teen. Sadly, they don’t get what they bargained for. Instead, some children are returned broken. Some have died and never come home.

Private abductions

Many parents are convinced by program staff they should hire “teen escort” services to transport their children - some as young as seven - to their facilities located in remote rural areas. Though some transport services are licensed and hire caring staff, most are not licensed or regulated. Many youth are unjustifiably hand-cuffed, restrained, or pepper-sprayed in the process. The trauma of such abductions can last a lifetime

Parents were duped by glossy brochures, an endless number of convincing websites, and smooth-talking businessmen or their agents preying on their desperation.

Parents were talked into refinancing their homes, drawing from their retirement, spending their child’s college money, and taking out long-term loans.

Parents are convinced to give strangers Power of Attorney over their teens and pre-teens
Some children are as young as seven.

Where did children end up? In the hands of people who convinced parents they would save their child in reality many of these children have been abused and neglected.

Dangerous and unfair forms of punishment:

Untrained staff perform dangerous restraints resulting in physical harm and all too often in the death of a child. Many programs operate on a points-based system. The youth lose hard-earned points for small infractions such as dropping a fork on the floor or belching. In some facilities, children are severely punished for looking out the window, as they are considered a runaway threat.

Over the years, thousands of children have ended up at WWASP’s Tranquility Bay facility in Jamaica where reports and articles have shown, and victims have alleged, there are no laws to protect the children, the facility is not licensed and there is no oversight
Children lose their basic human rights, many have no privacy to use the restroom or shower, and children lose contact with the outside world.

Once phone calls with parents are finally allowed, usually 3-6 months or more after the child enters the program, they are censored; children lose virtually all other verbal contact with the outside world. Children’s letters to extended family and friends are usually not delivered, and mail is censored. Many have spent months on their faces in isolation.

John France, an Educational and Forensic Psychologist, testified about his son’s stay at WWASP facility Spring Creek Lodge in Utah. He stated his son spent nearly nine months in “The Hobbit”, a small structure that was no more than two shelves on top of one another, his body barely able to fit.

It was hot in the summer and cold in the winter. So cold, his orange he stored away at night was frozen by morning. He was forced to sleep on a small shelf and to urinate in his drinking cup during the night. He etched the words “Let Freedom Ring” on one of the shelves.

At WWASPS’ High Impact facility in Mexico bathroom accommodations were atrocious. There was absolutely no privacy of any kind when showering or using the restroom. In a recent lawsuit filed in Texas, it was said some children in WWASPS facilities were forced to eat their own vomit.

During the jury trial WWASPS, et al. v. Sue Scheff, et al, some of the jurors cried as they watched video clips of the “Box,” where American children were reportedly hog-tied, hand-cuffed, duct-taped, starved, and slugged by staff. Video clips were shown of children who were locked in dog cages in the hot Mexican sun at WWASP’s High Impact program in Mexico, sometimes for days at a time. Children were forced exercise beyond their capacity in the heat of the day.

High Impact was shut down by the Mexican government for allegations of child neglect and abuse. Although Robert Lichfield, Ken Kay, and Karr Farnsworth claim High Impact is not a WWASP program, former employees and parents testified they were. Employees testified they were asked not to divulge the program’s association with WWASP - one employee testified she traveled to High Impact with Ken Kay, president of WWASP, who specifically warned her against divulging its association with WWASP.

One WWASP victim who had been trafficked by WWASP through five of their programs sobbed in court as video clips of children in dog cages were shown. Children’s hands were tied to the corners of the dog cages as they lay in the scorching Mexico sun.

One boy went down to 80 pounds during his confinement at WWASP’s Paradise Cove. He was hidden from television reporters. His confinement within the WWASP Empire of children’s programs ended 4

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