The fact of the matter is that many times today peoples perceptions take the place of facts. Initially it may seem as though the Shepard is herding sheep. Folks, it’s a wolf in sheep’s clothing. How often lies precede an array of events that don’t lead to a healthy outcome. The end result is broken bones, bruises, lack of education, poverty and a sad story I’ve come to see on a daily basis. YES, daily basis! Do people think these days that with all the education and worldy goods that things have changed one bit? That is the mirage. Something needs to change as domestic violence is growing at an epidemic rate. Good people make the world go round, but bad choices can render death. If prevention is worth a pound of cure then by all means lets start PREVENTING.
The change must start here. Something must change and the change has to be a realization that there is an entire world here that isn’t right. Throwing money and clothing and education at this world won’t help. Throwing sticks and stones won’t even dent the armour.
Awareness is the first step in a fight against what I believe to be a simple vortex of evil. I mean really threats and assault is only part of the war we are up against. Sabotage is the main tool being used to stop any progress. I know of a man who actually stops his child from studying. He denies doing this and keeps his son in a constant state of confusion in order to have total control. The boy will do much better one day if he has a way out so that he can breathe on his own. But, time passes slowly and the damage that has already been done is by the lessons he has learned and the pattern that he now will most certainly repeat in life just like his Father repeats the pattern is own Dad set down before him. The change comes if we stop the pattern from repeating again.
Denial is what is stopping awareness. Distraction from the facts is where the sabotage usually comes in. If I believed for one minute this was a safe situation, then I might spout out all the situations that I’ve seen and witnessed so that truth might prevail. I found that professionals so far removed from the situation chose not to believe the bruises were caused from a supposedly loving spouse. After all, why on earth is someone going to be married if not to love one another? There are all different kinds of love in this world I know now.
Safety first. I don’t know what is safe at this point. To stay silent or to speak. I have learned from past experiences that unless someone else speaks on my behalf and has actually seen the damage being done no one believes me. This must also be the case for many others. I cannot believe that I’m alone in this situation even though I have also seen women who have been able to speak up and consequently stand their ground when telling the truth and presenting the facts.
I speak out in hopes that there is some way prevention can occur before it’s to late. A child who is young enough to have a chance and deserves that chance for a childhood free from domestic abuse. I start here alone, ready to do what’s necessary to assist. I believe that denial is the way the child protects themselves from the abuse. After all, how on earth can this person that I love so much ever hurt me in anyway. It must be for my own good right?
The people in the US can shed light upon a situation for the truth to come out. It won’t be easy and it’s been ongoing for centuries. This is the real war at home where something has to change.
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