Child Abuse Defense

I was sitting at the dinner table with three of my grandchildren who ranged from age one to four. We were laughing and talking about the days events, when Samuel turned towards me and said, “I love you, grandma”. His face shone with the brightest smile as if he had just come to a big revelation about how he was feeling in his heart. I smiled back at him and returned the words of love.

This was not the first time that he said these words to me. In fact, since he could speak the words I love you, he said them often. He would come to my house or I would walk into the room where he was playing and out would pop these three little, adorable words from his small child-like voice.

I came from a long line of great mothers. My grandmother loved and adored her children and was a loving example to me. My mother dedicated her life to her children and loved us with all of her heart. I too carried the principles of unconditional love to my own children. And now my daughter was reaching out her arms towards her own children in constant words of “I love you”.

Family values are everything in a corrupt and evil world. To be loving parents to our children and to raise them in the principles of Jesus Christ as there Savior is everything! From the way we treat our children to how we show them patience during the difficult growing up years, is the lessons they will take and copy for their own families in the generations to come.

When you are raised in a good family environment, it is hard to understand why some parents neglect and cruelly oppress their children. Why would a father use his daughter or son for his own sexual pleasures? How could God allow such evil to be perpetrated on an innocent and helpless child?

News stories of neglect and horrible crimes against children are plastered all over the television and newspapers almost on a daily basis. The crimes against children are horrifying to hear about because they are waged against children who are helpless because they are unable to defend themselves against an abuser.

All of these stories bring out deep feelings and emotions in the hearts of most people. If you were abused, you remember what you went through and the terrifying helplessness you felt. You may have even taken that abuse and did it to your own children. Why would God allow such abuse to occur if He is a loving Savior?

Many people do not understand that we live in a teaching world. A world where evil has the freedom to reign because of man’s ability to make their own choice. This is called freewill. Free to follow the example of love as taught through the Bible or free to exploit and hurt people.

Genesis 2: 8&9, “Then the Lord God planted a garden in Eden, in the East, and there he put the man he had formed. He made all kinds of beautiful trees grow there and produce good fruit. In the middle of the garden stood the tree that gives life and the tree that gives knowledge of what is good and what is bad.”

When Adam and Eve chose to eat from the tree of knowledge they immediately were given understanding. Unfortunately, truth comes with good and bad consequences. Because Satan used the snake to deceive Eve, he was thrust out of heaven and he became the god of the earth.

Because sin entered into the world, God could no longer walk with man because He was without sin and could not tolerate evil. Man’s choice to decide for himself corrupted the world and gave Satan power to tempt and lure people into evil.

Romans 1: 28-32 “Because those people refuse to keep in mind the true knowledge about God, he has given them over to corrupted minds, so that they do the things that they should not do. They are filled with all kinds of wickedness, evil, greed, and vice; they are full of jealousy, murder, fighting, deceit, and malice. They gossip and speak evil of one another; they are hateful to God, insolent, proud, and boastful; they think of more ways to do evil, they disobey their parents; they have no conscience; they do not keep their promises, and they show no kindness or pity for others. They know that God’s law says that people who live in this way deserve death. Yet, not only do they continue to do these things, but they even approve of others who do them.”

When evil is given freedom in a person’s life the people around them become victims of crime. This is the reason why children are born out of lust and not love. Children who are destined to follow in their parents foot steps because they are such bad examples to them when they are young.

Children are the earliest victims of evil because they are small and defenseless. But God in His compassion and love sends people who have suffered as children to become beacons of light for the very young. God inspires welfare systems that take in the abused and neglected. He creates churches with programs to help teach children about God and love.

Every evil that men can perpetrate against a child is met with an even greater force! God inspires caring and nurturing adults who rally to the defense of children by becoming foster parents. America’s Most Wanted was founded because of the kidnapping, murder, and the exploitation of children. Mental Health establishments grew out of the needs of those who are abused.

John 3:16-17, “For God loved the world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in him may not die but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to be its judge, but to be its savior.”

God loves children so much that from the perfection of heaven He gave His only Son. Jesus came to save the world and to destroy every evil that the devil instigates against good people.

1John 3: 7&8, ” Let no one deceive you, my children! Whoever does what is right is righteous, just as Christ is righteous. Whoever continues to sin belongs to the Devil, because the Devil has sinned from the very beginning. The Son of God appeared for this very reason, to destroy what the Devil had done.”

Crimes against children will continue as long as people refuse to listen to God. Freewill corrupts evil people and gives them the power to hurt others, but God always fights back! He established jails for perverts and abusers. He raises up Christian Soldiers who break the chains of generational sins that hold tightly to families who abuse and hurt their children.

Revelations 21: 3&4, “I heard a loud voice speaking from the throne: ‘Now God’s home is with mankind! He will live with them, and they shall be his people. God himself will be with them, and he will be their God. He will wipe away all tears from their eyes. There will be no more death, no more grief or crying or pain. The old things have disappeared.’

(7&8), ‘Whoever wins the victory will receive this from me: I will be his God, and he will be my son. But cowards, traitors, perverts, murderers, the immoral, those who practice magic, those who worship idols, and all liars-the place for them is the lake burning with fire and sulfur, which is the second death.’”

God is love and He will reward His children who have suffered from the hands of evil men. I am so thankful that God gave me a family where the principles of Christ’s love shone like a bright shining light of truth. Choose Jesus Christ as your Savior today and your sorrows will turn to joy!

The subject of marital physical abuse is as sensitive as murder or child molestation nowadays. You Google this topic and you’ll get multitudinous lists which you cannot even read in a day, probably, you may even get bored or nauseated. But, I know this is impossible. Whoever gets bored by this topic is not human. We are aware of battery and how cruel, at times, fatal this could get, whether it’s the wife or the husband or your partners when you are not married yet. If it’s not you, then somebody else you know, a member of your family, a friend, a colleague, a neighbor, a person you look up to, have experiences to tell.

Here are examples of how we can get out of a marriage full of punches and black eyes.

1. STAY AWAY FROM ALL THE BLOWS. The safest way to stop this is to be away from the offender. Do not volunteer or offer yourself as a sacrifice so he or she can release all demonic acts one could possibly do. Talk to your partner if he is in his normal state of mind and set an agreement that whenever you have an argument, since you have noticed a pattern that all arguments would end him beating you up, you have to be clear that you will need to get out of your place on every onset of each argument. Now I know, this just sounds silly. But this applies to those wives or husband who cannot go out of the marriage but only wants to stop the physical abuse. Well, it should be total no-no in the first place but in the real world, there are just partners who cannot leave such relationships thinking that eventually, he or she will change. Now, this is even a bigger risk to do. Tendencies are, you will always aim to change or control situations, either you please him or avoid the things that will make him get angry. Bottomline is, he won’t change, you will. Do not flirt with disaster, do not even begin to compete with it. Let the offender understand that you are doing this for both of you. For you not to be hurt physically and for him to avoid hurting you.

2. DON’T PRAY THAT THE BEATING WILL STOP WHILE YOU ARE IN THE ACT OF BEING ABUSED. I know a wife who was abused by her husband for five years. He would always beat her for hours and eventually when the beating was over and the wife would want to go to sleep with blood all over her face and body, obviously, too exhausted to even wash up, her husband would kick her and tell her to sleep standing! Apparently, he was not yet done with her. And this wife, would REALLY sleep standing! Imagine that! She said that whenever he would hurt her, she would just be quiet, take all the punches and pray that it will stop soon. God does not answer prayers that way. It maybe so old and scriptural, but, faith without work is dead, this is still very true. Nobody deserves to stay in a sick relationship. One would rather be healthy alone, than be with somebody sick all the time.

3. GO OUT AND SEE A MARRIAGE COUNSELOR. I would prefer a marriage counselor than a psychologist (no pun intended). If you know somebody who is a spiritual leader or anybody who can help your partner stop his ways, go and accompany him. Under this step, it may also help to pray together. Set a timeframe. Be assertive. Always do your part to help him stop his addiction of abusing you, little by little. Again, let’s go back to rule number 1, you have to get out of your place while he is trying to overcome this,if he can. Continue to be a good Samaritan, but from afar.

4. PLAN IN ADVANCE. We’re talking about what you can probably do when he won’t stop, where you can probably go to anytime. Do not be afraid. I know this is the time of your life where your self-esteem is so on the borderline, that you are so scared to start on your own thinking he might follow you wherever you go, or it could have been so hard to plan for yourself alone since you have been dependent on him financially. There’s only one chance to live this life, if you won’t do it for yourself and by yourself, others will.

5. GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP, IMMEDIATELY. If after all the help you got and still, nothing has stopped, then leave. Unlike my friend, you don’t have to wait for five years. In the United States alone, four wives or partners are being murdered everyday, because of physical abuse. These same people are proven to be sexually abusing their own children,too. These are all cruel acts and again, it is not your fault that he hit you, it was never your fault that he strangled your neck using your television cable wire. It was never your fault that he would turn into a monster every time you find out he’s cheating on you or he’s lying. But it could already be your fault if you will not do anything. I know leaving him (or her!) won’t be easy but it is doable. Respect has to begin from yourself. Remember, choosing to stay in an abusive relationship when you have all the ways and reasons to leave, is just like surrendering to endless darkness and death, while still alive.